Divorce Coaching and Education

Divorce is an emotionally wrenching and expensive process. Whether it's cooperative or adversarial, it demands a couples clearest thinking and best communication. Divorce coaching and education can help a spouse, a partner, or a couple to move successfully through the divorce process in five major ways.

The educated family will be prepare to make the right choices

A. Divorce education enhances the couple's understanding of the types of divorce processes they can use to achieve their permanent separation. At the same time, coaches assess the partners' abilities for using constructive communication.

B. The purpose of coaching is also to evaluate which type of divorce process will allow the couple to arrive at an emotionally and financially healthy resolution. Coaching assistance is significant because without an educated choice clients can select an attorney without knowing that they are also selecting the kind of process that will be used to achieve the divorce. Instead of the couple deciding which process is best for their family, their abilities, and their finances, they will find that they are engaging in that process with which their attorney is most familiar and uses most often.

C. Parents are often overwhelmed by the thought of telling their children that they are divorcing. Coaching assists couples by helping them decide what they want to say to their children and how they will go about telling them. Role-playing is an effective way of preparing for the actual event.
This use of coaching can reduce parents' anxiety, and helps the spouses demonstrate to the children that they will still be working together and that they still have the children's best interests as their priority. As they experience a sense of cooperation between the parents, the children's anxiety and reactivity is reduced. This is a great way to start a cooperative divorce process.

D. Coaching helps the couple form a picture of what their futures will look like as co-parents after the divorce. This lays firm groundwork for clear decision making that will allow the couple to achieve a legal agreement that best conforms to those pictures they have developed.

E. Coaching can enhance skills that allow partners to manage negative emotions so they can function productively through their divorce process. High negative emotion interrupts good decision-making and fan fires of conflict. The coaching experience enhances a partners ability to communicate constructively and with respect.

Coaching can be used in preparation for meetings with attorneys, a mediator, or during meetings where both partners and their support teams come together for creative problem solving. The goal of divorce coaching and education is to maximize the chances of achieving a healthy divorce by preserving the emotional assets of the family, whether or not there are children.

Coaching can increase the chances of partners maintaining a healthy bond, giving them a better opportunity to transition into a separate life. Where children are concerned, divorce coaching can serve as the catalyst for a developing an emotionally healthy co-parenting relationship, both in the immediate as well as in the future.